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Thursday, February 18, 2010

Article: Domestic Disturbances

PATRICK FAGAN

The culture of the traditional family is now in intense competition with a very different culture. The defining difference between the two is the sexual ideal each embraces.

The traditional family of Western civilization is based on lifelong monogamy. The competing culture is "polyamorous," normally a serial polygamy, but also increasingly polymorphous in its different sexual expressions.

I hope there is elegance in the simple distinction between the ideals that distinguish the two cultures: monogamy and polymorphous serial polygamy, or "polyamory" for short.

Between these two cultures lie the welfare state and its operational bureaucracy. By and large, the culture of polyamory embraces the behavioral bureaucracy, while the culture of monogamy has increasing disagreements with it. This is understandable and unavoidable when the differences between the two cultures are examined.




Opposing Cultures

The culture of monogamy and the culture of polyamory differ profoundly in their assumptions on the way society functions. Here are some of the differences:

  • First and foremost, religion has a very different place in each culture. The culture of
    monogamy is infused from top to bottom with the sacred, in personal, family,
    community, and national life. Worship of God is frequent and assumed. The culture of
    polyamory tends much more to hide religion, even to suppress it in all things public. It
    worships God less and demands that religion be private.

  • The culture of monogamy views freedom as the freedom to be good; the culture of
    polyamory views freedom as freedom from any constraints upon sexual behavior.

  • In the culture of monogamy, insight and intellect, through which comes the knowledge of
    the good that is to be pursued, are paramount; in the culture of polyamory, the will
    to do what one likes is paramount.

  • The culture of monogamy tends towards belief in objective truth—that reality exists and can
    be known, while the culture of polyamory tends towards a relativist and
    ideological understanding of truth—that reality results from an imposition of the will.

  • The culture of monogamy tends towards universal moral norms, while the culture of
    polyamory favors moral relativism.

  • The language of virtue sits well with the culture of monogamy but uncomfortably with the
    culture of polyamory.

  • The laws of the culture of monogamy protect by forbidding—outlawing—certain actions. The
    culture of polyamory protects by prescribing programs and ensuring outcomes.

  • Above the floor of the forbidden, the culture of monogamy leaves all goals and actions
    freely available to everyone. The culture of polyamory, having less of a floor, constantly
    increases prescriptive and regulatory detail, telling people more and more how they
    must act.

  • The laws of the culture of monogamy are designed to protect one's capacity to pursue
    legitimate goods of one's choice (and they are myriad), but those of the culture
    of polyamory are designed to guarantee particular outcomes for everyone.


  • In the culture of monogamy, men not only are anchored, they are required to be so. In the culture of polyamory, women are the anchors, while men can drift (or be cast adrift) as desired, and they do so in very large numbers.

    The constitutional state was the product of a monogamous
    culture. It could never have emerged from a culture of
    polyamory because it assumes responsible citizens.
    The expanding social welfare state is the product of
    the culture of polyamory, and it is increasingly hostile
    to the culture of monogamy. It creates less responsible
    citizens.

  • Regulations are minimal in the culture of monogamy
    because laws, stated clearly in the negative ("Thou shalt
    not"), require minimal regulatory interpretation.
    The culture of polyamory, through programs and
    policies aimed at outcomes and safety nets, enumerates
    what must be done, not only that which is not permitted.

  • The culture of monogamy, built on appetite restraint, has little need for a behavioral
    bureaucracy. The culture of polyamory, designed as a safety net not only for the
    unlucky but also for the unrestrained, increasingly relies on social welfare programs to
    rescue its adherents from the effects of its form of sexuality. Without this net, the
    culture of polyamory would fall to pieces of its own weight and disorder.

  • The culture of monogamy, by being child-oriented, is future-oriented and full of hope: The
    child is protected, and the next generation, the future of the country, is the main
    focus of the society's work. For the culture of polyamory, the present welfare of adults
    is the main focus.

  • In the culture of monogamy, all human lives are sacred and protected, including those of
    the unborn, the handicapped, and the elderly. In the culture of polyamory, about
    one-third of unborn babies are aborted, and the handicapped and elderly are unwelcome
    and increasingly vulnerable to early "termination."

  • The culture of monogamy is built around the traditional, natural family. In the culture of
    polyamory, the traditional, natural family is just one option among many and is often
    considered a nuisance because of its claims to special difference and superior
    effectiveness.

  • In the culture of monogamy, men are anchored in their families and tied to their children
    and wives, through the free and deliberate focus of their sexuality
    . In the culture of
    polyamory, which treasures sexual freedom or license, such sexual constraint by men
    (or women) is not expected, nor, in fact, is any attempt to foster such constraint
    acceptable
    , for that would be the antithesis of the main project of the culture of
    polyamory: polymorphous sexuality whenever desired.

  • The culture of polyamory, contrary to the claims of radical feminists, aggressively fosters
    the kind of male they most decry: the sexually and physically harassing,
    the abusing and abandoning male. Being the natural cost of its defining project,
    these and related dysfunctions justify and necessitate more safety nets.

  • In the culture of monogamy, men not only are anchored, they are required to be so. In the
    culture of polyamory, women are the anchors, while men can drift (or be cast adrift)
    as desired, and they do so in very large numbers.

  • In the culture of monogamy, gender roles are more differentiated, with women more likely
    to devote their time to the tasks of motherhood and the men more likely to be the
    sole or main source of family income. The culture of polyamory is much more androgynous,
    its main focus being equality of outcomes for both men and women in the workplace and
    in the home
    .

  • In their respective populations, the culture of monogamy is fertile and expanding, while the
    culture of polyamory is sterile and contracting.

  • The culture of monogamy is inexpensive for society to maintain, while the culture of
    polyamory is very expensive.




    The "Janissary" Tactic

    Despite the last two, seeming "killer" conclusions—and contributing significantly to the tension between the two cultures, whether by happenstance or deliberate design—the culture of polyamory has figured out its way to survive and even thrive: by controlling three critical areas of public policy, which yield big gains in "converts" from the culture of monogamy to theirs. These three areas are childhood education, sex education, and the control of adolescent health programs.

    Controlling these three areas enables the polyamory culture to reach into the traditional monogamy culture and gradually dismantle it. No little aid is provided by the entertainment industry, which today especially is a very powerful institution aligned with the culture of polyamory and biased against the monogamy culture.

    Through its domination of the education of children, sex education, and adolescent health, the culture of polyamory diminishes the influence and dismantles the authority of parents and so impedes parents' efforts to form their children as members of their own culture. In a polemical vein, one could say the polyamorists "snatch" children away from their parents and from the culture of monogamy just as the Ottoman Turks of the fourteenth century raided boys from Christian nations to train them as their own elite warriors, the Janissaries.

    Every time the polyamorists succeed in drawing a teenager into sexual activity through one of their anti-monogamy education programs, they have captured another "Janissary" and won a number of victories simultaneously: (1) They have initiated the adolescent into the polyamory culture (albeit without his knowing what is at stake); (2) with the out-of-wedlock births or abortions likely to follow, they have broken a family before it has started, solidifying the polyamorous status of the adolescent or young adult; and (3) they have pulled the young person away from participating in the sacred, since formerly religious teenagers who begin to engage regularly in sex outside of marriage tend to stop worshiping God.




    Polyamory Advances

    All this the polyamorists achieve without any overt, direct attack. Their programs are conducted "under the radar" and are all the more effective for it. They know this, and are fierce in protecting their control of the Big Three programs (childhood education, adolescent health, and sex education), with a fierceness nothing in the culture of monogamy rivals in intensity or success.

    For instance, in the United States, the rise of abstinence education—i.e., monogamy education—over the last decade immediately galvanized the polyamorists into a massive political counter-attack, culminating in their recent success in getting the federal government to eliminate funding for the abstinence programs. This came to pass despite all the good results that abstinence education produced among teenagers, including reductions in abortions, out-of-wedlock births, and sexually transmitted diseases, and increases in educational attainment.

    In Europe, where the culture of polyamory has greater sway, the clearest illustration of its continuing advance is seen in its attack on the monogamy culture's last bastion of effectiveness—homeschooling and home rearing, at least through early childhood (up to age six) and sometimes beyond. In homeschooling, the Big Three programs are, of course, under the control of parents, and, as we know from US data of some depth, they yield outcomes far superior to what state-controlled programs can yield.




    State Support


    State-controlled programs in developed countries today are almost universally polyamory-friendly and monogamy-hostile. This situation is unjust insofar as it impinges upon the universal, inalienable right of parents to raise their children as they see fit, including raising them in their own (monogamous) culture.

    State-controlled programs in developed countries today are almost universally polyamory-friendly and monogamy-hostile. This situation is unjust insofar as it impinges upon the universal, inalienable right of parents to raise their children as they see fit, including raising them in their own (monogamous) culture.

    The social welfare state further impinges upon the monogamy culture by using the universal safety-net insurance scheme (i.e., taxes) to ensure that the monogamous pay disproportionately more to support those who choose the polyamory culture. This, too, is unjust, not only because the state does not sponsor equivalent culture-friendly programs for the monogamous, but more egregiously, because the state helps make their children the target of the culture of polyamory's "Janissary" scheme.

    This situation requires a huge political response on the part of the monogamy culture, such as getting the flow of Big Three tax money diverted from special interest groups (organized doctors, teachers, and schools) to parents, in the form of vouchers, so they can then choose the individual doctors, teachers, and schools they want for their children. The professionals will still receive the same amount of money, but instead of serving a bureaucracy, they will be cooperating with the parents. But such a change is a big one in the political order, and the culture of monogamy must harness itself to the task.




    Time to Act

    By its very make-up, the culture of monogamy organizes itself from the bottom up, not top down, in social (and thus political) matters. It solves its social problems by forming its own private "platoons." A significant aspect of the family is that men have the special role of being the primary protectors. Thus, it is husbands and fathers especially who need to engage the increasingly hostile state and the polygamy culture whenever they attempt to "raid" the territory of the family's domain.

    Every man in the monogamy culture needs to find his way to be actively engaged in the protection of his children, and, given what is at stake, other men and women of the culture of monogamy will increasingly expect this of every man, and will do what they can to help him.

    Every monogamous man will be expected to fight to obtain his and his family's just due, to have a say in what his taxes fund, and to exercise control over the three big programs of childhood education, sex education, and adolescent health programs, so that they can be carried out in a way that supports the norms of his family's culture of monogamy.

    In all of human history, the culture of monogamy has never encountered the type of competition it faces now. We must engage. We can wait no longer; we need men of courage and energy. We are looking for the first few.




    See the full address, "Family Diversity and political freedom: How can people with different
    approaches to family life live together in free societies?" by Patrick Fagan here.




    ACKNOWLEDGEMENT

    Patrick F. Fagan. "Domestic Disturbances." Touchstone (January/February, 2010).

    This article was adapted and abridged from a talk given to the World Congress of Families in Amsterdam on August 12, 2009. The World Congress of Families is the world’s largest conference of pro-family leaders and grass-roots activists.

    This article reprinted with permission from Touchstone: A Journal of Mere Christianity.

    Touchstone is a Christian journal, conservative in doctrine and eclectic in content, with editors and readers from each of the three great divisions of Christendom — Protestant, Catholic, and Orthodox. The mission of the journal and its publisher, the Fellowship of St. James, is to provide a place where Christians of various backgrounds can speak with one another on the basis of shared belief and the fundamental doctrines of the faith as revealed in Holy Scripture and summarized in the ancient creeds of the Church.

    THE AUTHOR

    Patrick F. Fagan, Ph.D. is Senior Fellow at the Family Research Council and Director of the Marriage and Religion Research Institute (MARRI), where he examines the relationships among family, marriage, religion, community, and America's social problems as illustrated in the social sciences research data. A native of Ireland, Fagan earned his Bachelor of Social Science degree with a double major in sociology and social administration, and a professional graduate degree in psychology (dip. psych.) as well as a Ph.D. in social policy from University College Dublin.

    Copyright © 2010 Touchstone

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